We all have a story to tell or an experience to share, some from our past and few exposing our miserable present. If we look around today we will find people engaged in constant touch of some emotion or the other.

Let us just pause for a moment. Hold your breath, keep that phone, laptop or, the vegetable that you were chopping for momentarily no reason aside and just cease at this moment. Look around. What do you find?

We are all a part of anything but the present. This sounds extremely scary but to my realization, we are failing to be a part of our Now. Few are busy leaving their love for someone else and few trying their best to get past it but somehow, even now , those memories from the past still engage their mind supremely, few are stuck at a meaningless job yet they think of doing something that would add value to their life in future, few have a job presently which they love but again they have no idea what happiness feels like. We have known a lot of people who have everything that they ever wanted — a caring family, a perfect job, privileged enough but that never stopped them from complaining about that one little thing which , maybe, they do not have.

“Our ikigai is different for all of us, but one thing we have in common is that we are all searching for meaning.’’– Hector Garcia Puigcerver

I haven’t been able to master or get past my miseries even today and I will be honest but sometimes wasting this time turns out to be a comfort zone. We get beautifully cozy in misusing our Now and precisely wrap ourselves in laziness as we feel warm in that unhealthy comfort zone of ours. We reside in a culture where we are constantly projected with an expectation or an experience. We fail to realize that this moment right now will never return to us. So we are missing out on our current moment of a micro-flow. In order to achieve this optimal experience, we have to focus on increasing the time we spend on activities that bring us to this state of flow, rather than allowing ourselves to get caught up in activities that offer immediate pleasure.

‘’You must keep your feet grounded so firmly on the earth that it’s like you have four legs, instead of two. That way, you can stay in the world. But you must stop looking at the world through your head. You must look through your heart, instead. That way, you will know God.”-Ketut Liyer

We have this beautiful time to be with our family and this moment will again be lost in thin air if we are still sitting idle, thinking about and scrolling through the things we cannot control. We have an enormous opportunity to set our electronics aside for at least a few hours on a given day , at times reconnect with our childhood friends who had been such an important part of our lives someday or maybe reach out to our relatives and check on them. Reconnect with the energy and the momentum of your Now.

But Is the ‘’busy’’ adding some value in our lives?

Let’s keep the feelings aside for once but over the years haven’t we already gifted and poured out our precious time to people who had constantly failed us and more often left us in despair? Quite unfortunately haven’t we already given so much of our time and space to the people who had wronged us time and again? To my surprise even today I find myself still thinking and naturally draining a few more minutes of my limited time here to those scars from the past or unwanted calls from the future.

In this whole process, I am unintentionally hurting the ones who have loved me every day, kept me closer to their heart, have helped me grow tall on my waves -my friends and family. Imagine if we instead feed this time to ourselves, polish our skills and start that blog we always wanted to start, embrace our loved ones so closely, practice activities that had always made us happy, draw, sketch, dance, sing, speak, we will be doing ourselves a downright favor. It’s often said that those who give up the things they love doing and do well lose their purpose in life. That’s why it’s so important to keep doing things of value, making progress, bringing beauty or utility to others, helping out, and shaping the world around you, even after your ‘official’ professional activity has ended. Maybe the problem is we haven’t acknowledged the importance of feeding our complete well being with our time yet and fail to realize that the enormous power lies within ourselves.

I realized I am not living in the present, I am not being able to appreciate what I have today and how grateful I can be. I am entirely forgetting about how I used to laugh together with my loved ones because I am still pulled back by my horrific past. I realized maybe even today wasting my precious time over an environment that does not deserve my time anymore is my guilty pleasure.

Is it yours too at times?



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